The Sex Deception
(A Young Man's Guide)
“A nation can survive its fools, and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within. An enemy at the gates is less formidable, for he is known and carries his banner openly. But the traitor moves amongst those within the gate freely, his sly whispers rustling through all the alleys, heard in the very halls of government itself. For the traitor appears not a traitor; he speaks in accents familiar to his victims, and he wears their face and their arguments, he appeals to the baseness that lies deep in the hearts of all men. He rots the soul of a nation, he works secretly and unknown in the night to undermine the pillars of the city, he infects the body politic so that it can no longer resist. A murderer is less to fear.”
Better celibate than a slave ....
OK, so what?, you may ask. Just another sexual image on a busy city street. City streets are full of them. Yet on reflection it seemed to me that in a form much less covert than usual the whole sex deception was revealed in that poster – a deception I will now attempt to explain, particularly to young men who are its chief targets and victims.
To understand what I am referring to here by the “sex deception” we need to understand something about the way desire and control mechanisms are related.
That which we desire can be used against us. Obviously. If your father has not told you this then he ought to. In any case I am telling you now. In particular, it can be used as a means to extract from us what we otherwise would not be inclined to give away. And again obviously, it follows that the more intense, urgent or pressing the desire, the greater the chances that it can be used effectively as a control mechanism – that is, the more likely you will be prepared to pay a greater price to obtain what you perceive to be the object of your desire.
And what is that price exactly? Essentially the purchase of the objects of your desire always amounts to the same thing – slavery. When you purchase the object of your desire with money for example, what is it really costing you? What does the coloured paper you give over for it really represent? Actually it represents, probably, your agreement to obey another person's will regardless of any other will including your own, for a certain length of time and for no other purpose than monetary remuneration, or in other words the currency with which you purchase the objects of your desire. To fail to do so means you go without and this is the metaphorical gun at your head or whip at your back that keeps you at your employer's beck and call. Actually it is a very subtle form of slavery.
Now sex desire is particularly potent. If you are a young man you've probably noticed this by now. Sex pleasure belongs to the appetites of the body and is intense. Pleasure, per se, without anything spiritually finer to temper it, is inclined to be a commodity. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. Quid pro quo. Consider: why should a woman give you pleasure? What's in it for her? Either you return in kind or you compensate her for her efforts. Or somebody else does. If the purpose of sexual intercourse or activity is mere pleasure that's all it amounts to at the end of the day. We are not being cynical, we are simply calling a spade by its real name.
You may have further noticed, depending how awake you are, that the pop culture, mainly via the mass media and Hollywood, uses sex imagery and suggestion, even subliminals, in just about everything; from advertising, TV shows, movies and music videos; to video games, clothing fashion, newspapers, magazines and books. All this we are subject to from the youngest age, with a cumulative effect on our consciousness, and also a navigating one towards content increasingly explicit and contrived. At the same time our natural defences, that is, our finer sensibilities and feelings of repugnance, are gradually desensitised and brutalised. In more recent years these tactics have been effectively adapted to cyberspace with interactive hyper-links insidiously designed to take a young man from one thing to another to yet another and sooner or later to blatant and explicit pornography. Much of it apparently for “free”. But is it really free?
No, it isn't. That's the short answer, but the dearest price you pay may have escaped you. Actually it is designed to escape you, so that is perhaps not so surprising. The consequence of essentially unnatural over-exposure to sexual imagery (even the not so explicit content), is hypersexualisation. Very few of us grow up these days with an entirely natural and balanced sexual orientation, that is to say, with sex in its proper place in our psyche. And this state of affairs is directly related to the increasing influence of mass media forms of communication, and associated technology, in recent times.
The question of how we can possibly end up properly oriented sexually, when our sexual psyche is accosted so thoroughly and deliberately and continuously for the purposes of psychological manipulation, and from the most impressionable of ages, is a pertinent one. Make no mistake, the assault on our sexual psyche is a sophisticated and scientific enterprise. Behavioural science and the most insidious and unscrupulous methods are employed for the purpose. The result is that sex is almost invariably exaggerated and to some extent perverted in our psyche by the time we reach physical maturity, and the danger is that not knowing any other way, we take this for normal. And since everybody else is more or less in the same boat actually it is normal. Though that doesn't make it sound.
Now think for a moment. Do you seriously think that all this exposure to content and imagery and false ideology of a sexual nature is done for the sake of your (sexual) liberation, or your personal pleasure, or from the kindness of the hearts of those who see to it that this state of affairs exists in the first place? Come now, gentlemen. We are not that naive, surely. Sexually disoriented we may be. But that needn't mean we can't be aware of the ways of the world. And such awareness is surely our only hope of ever becoming properly oriented and truly liberated.
The fact is that hypersexualisation is deliberate policy. Obviously. And for obvious reasons. If I can take a desire in you that is already naturally strong and exaggerate or exacerbate or even pervert it so as to make it even stronger, or better still for my nefarious purposes, more compulsive and more urgent, then I have the means to enslave you by monopolising and manipulating the ways you seek to access satisfaction of that desire. In other words, if I can, in addition to hypersexualising you, also convince you that I, and I alone, however indirectly, have the keys to the satisfaction of your pressing urges, then you are mine for the taking – a slave to your own weakness and gullibility, all of which have been deliberately exploited for precisely that purpose. You may even be grateful to me for the privilege.
Please do not dismiss this as too bad to be true. It is one of the chief follies of youth to underestimate how low other men (and women), often our elders, will go to secure our enslavement. Education does not prepare you for this. In fact it deliberately misleads you as to the true nature of the world that seeks to “employ” you and engage you. Who you perceive to be your employer, or what you perceive to be engaging you, is really only the link closest to you in a long and unperceived chain that stretches back to entities you know nothing about and who seek to control everything that falls under their influence through money and other forms of incentive and intimidation. Your parents, elders and peers too have probably been misled, or are being misled, and will thus in turn also mislead. Try not to find out the hard way the truth of this. Know it for certain: if there is a way to control and exploit you there will be someone willing to try to do so. That is a fact. All the more so when the exploitation can be generalised to reach vast numbers. But know this also: your own wisdom about these things will protect you. That is also a fact.
There is, however, more to the use of sex desire to exploit and enslave you than merely the use of the object of your desire (or that which you have been psychologically manipulated to associate with it), as a bargaining tool to secure your co-operation, but it is not so obvious and will require you to watch and be aware of your own body and mind if you would confirm the truth of it.
It has to do with sexual continence and incontinence and the effect of these on the masculinity of your mind. Actually not so long ago men understood what I am about to tell you very well, they were not so easily deceived or degraded, but in the shallow and essentially hostile and hyper-competitive psychological environment we inhabit today, what was once common knowledge among men has faded into dangerous obscurity. Let's now drag it back into the light where it belongs, shall we?
When a man has, for whatever reason, a loss of sexual fluid, his mind is temporarily emasculated, that is, it becomes temporarily more submissive/dependent. (The perceived duration and extent of this will vary depending on a number of factors.) If the man is habitually continent, that is, if he is in the habit of conserving his sexual fluid and not losing it indiscriminately, then this temporary emasculation will not have much significance overall for his psyche or his relationships. But if such a loss of fluid becomes habitual then so too does the effect on his mind, with the result that the man ends up habitually dependent psychologically, and thus easier to control. For example, such dependence is often experienced as a tendency to loneliness or depression and a compulsive need to escape either feeling by means more or less dubious and destructive. A feedback loop can ensue. Clearly such a mind is wide open to control mechanisms. (Pharmaceutical ones for example.....)
Actually the emasculation of the minds of men by way of sexual incontinence and for the purposes of control has now been more or less generally accomplished in Western society, particularly in the English speaking world. But this has gone largely unnoticed because of a deliberately fostered, mass misunderstanding/confusion among men about what masculinity actually is.
So what exactly is masculinity?
Perhaps it might be simplest to begin with what masculinity isn't. Masculinity does not mean being the top dog in the dog eat dog world of business, finance, politics or any other dog eat dog arena. A man is not a dog. Neither does it mean watching sport on the TV, drinking alcohol, gambling or being senselessly violent, all of which (or variants thereof) have been actively encouraged in foolish men, by oppressive powers that be, for control purposes, since time immemorial. (Panem et circenses – bread and circuses – the ancient method.) It is clear that masculinity can have nothing whatsoever to do with sexual incontinence and promiscuity despite continual media misdirection regarding this. Nor is it clueless and misplaced so-called “rebellion” or blind and cowardly conformity to social norms or power structure directives, or any other form of pack conformity. All of the above are, in fact, symptoms of psychological puerility, not virility, though they are often made to seem compatible with the latter in the make-believe world of cinema and TV.
The mass media misrepresents violence and overemphasises sport, that is, the games of boys. Heroic characters are portrayed using violence for the sake of what is “right” or “just” or admirable on the cinematic or televisual screen, in movies, video games and news stories, in direct contrast to the real world where violence is almost invariably a form of cheating, that is, an attempt to claim something through the use of brute force that cannot be acquired through legitimate and just pathways. (Note that the threat of violence, explicit or implied, is also violence.) Yet the fact is that a mind without justice is ever subject to unmanly fears and insecurity, since it cannot avoid the universal law of mind that we expect from others what we would do unto them, nor the universal law of nature that circumstances change.
Violence may strike out blindly in anger or fear or frustration, as a reaction to its own fetters, but, if blind, can only risk making those fetters stronger. Or it may seek to impress or frighten others, betraying an essentially dependent, insecure or paranoiac nature, while asserting a mere appearance of independence and courage through superficial dominance. Competitiveness, especially hyper competitiveness, can be similarly symptomatic of a deep need for approval from others, or the compulsive need to satisfy some greedy and voracious mental idol. And both needs are features of psychological dependence.
Actually, psychological dependence and psychological idolatry always go hand in hand. The feelings of inadequacy and incompleteness of the former are dualistically associated with the ideas of adequacy and completeness of the latter. This duality is characteristic of psychological puerility. A boy is inclined to hero worship. There is an idea in his head, he may not even be conscious of, and which he aspires to be like, and which thus becomes a kind of inner judge by which his sense of identity is defined. Watch your own mind and see if you can be aware of this habit. (Note: sexual continence is essential for this level of awareness.) It can be surprising to notice it, since it otherwise usually operates in us unconsciously, just beneath the surface of conscious thought. Yet to be simply aware of it, to bring it to light, is the beginning of the end of it.
You may then begin to notice something remarkable. Many so-called “men” in our society are more than a bit puerile psychologically, though physically quite advanced in years. (Actually, this is a sure sign of a society in the advanced stages of decline.) Such men seek to be worshipped and obeyed as idols themselves, though this is merely the demand for worship and obedience to their own idols/mental abstractions coupled with identification. Alas, most significantly for our present global socio-political situation, such men often aspire and attain to leadership positions in society, chiefly in business and politics and other hierarchy-centric institutions based on false values, despite the fact that they are, where it counts, no more than boys, and not very bright ones at that. What is more, the long term stagnation of their psychological and spiritual development in psychologically and spiritually unsanitary conditions results inevitably in corruption, so that what begins as a relatively excusable immaturity becomes increasingly a hideous form of psychological perversion – the psychopath.
The psychopath, by way of his experience in the world, and sometimes too a shallow form of acumen, is often possessed of a worldly cunningness or cleverness which, though myopic and tunnel-visioned, and lacking the humility that results from profound insight and understanding, is inclined to impress similarly maturity-challenged boy-men. A wealthy man for instance, may have enormous influence and power completely out of proportion with his ability to use it properly and intelligently, and most importantly, non-destructively, while harbouring all manner of delusions about his actual capacity. These delusions, in turn are encouraged by the well paid yes-men with which he surrounds himself and the behind-the-scenes entities that control him. And the mass media, which is more or less controlled by such psychopaths, encourages psychological idolatry/hero worship in the general populace too, for reasons I hope you are now beginning to understand.
Of course, the idol/hero worshipper fails to understand that a mere idea, a mental abstraction can never define a living soul. Or that a real person can never fit into the box of a mere idea of himself. To see the fact of this, to make the distinction between the essentially unlimited nature of what one actually is, and the essentially limited nature of what one merely thinks or imagines oneself to be, is the beginning of psychological maturity and psychological self-sufficiency.
And now perhaps we have arrived finally at something like an adequate and worthy definition for masculinity. It is the unitary quality of psychological self-sufficiency as opposed to duality, dependence, puerility, and servility that more than anything else characterises genuine virility. And now perhaps too, you can understand why it is that the means by which young men might mature psychologically and attain to psychological self-sufficiency (and the depth of experience and happiness that follows from that) are continually under attack by those who prefer the dependence and gullibility of over aged boys and dogs, to men, for their purposes.
It is precisely for this reason that we are seeing everywhere the next step in the general demoralisation and destabilisation of our society, viz. the homosexualisation of men.
I have recently returned from a road trip which included visits to many of the major universities on the east coast of Australia*. Homosexualist propaganda was everywhere. Where I live, the local council at one point was touting the wonders of so-called “sexual diversity” in pre-recorded phone messages while people were on hold waiting to make a general enquiry. Libraries too were being used, without public mandate, to promote homosexualist literature and groups to “young adults”. These increasing attempts at inroads into the mainstream reflect an unmistakeable, general trend right across the nation and globally, but perhaps in the English speaking world, in particular. Again, do you really think this has anything to do, at the highest levels of policy-making, with a concern for “liberty”, homosexual or otherwise? If you do, you are sadly deluded.
A man caught up in the habits of homosexualism is invariably sexually incontinent and psychologically emasculated. And he'll stand up to no-one when the subject matter is anything but trivia and superficial inconsequence. Actually, he cannot understand anything else. You may not want to hear this, or it may be far too politically incorrect to get past your conditioned response of rejection, but it remains a fact nonetheless. A man caught in homosexualism is petty and puerile. He may be full of bluster and bravado, with a pack of like-minded men around him or supporting him behind the scenes (or safely ensconsed behind the simpletons he manipulates to do his dirty work and fight his battles for him), or he may be well-practised in pre-scripted theatre, but there is no way in the world he would ever have the guts and the insight to stand up on his own two feet psychologically and face the world with real personal integrity. And in the end that is all that counts for men who would be truly free.
Actually, homosexualism is not sexual orientation at all. It is in fact a form of sexual disorientation. And the man who identifies with it is as sadly deluded as the man who thinks he is defined by his smoking habit or drug or alcohol habit. Give them up and do they still define you? A man is not defined by something as fleeting and superficial as that which he finds pleasurable at this moment in space and time. How absurd and shallow it is to think otherwise! The habits of pleasure are always changing, always in flux, a man would be as well to identify with the weather as something so capricious and fickle as pleasure. And knowing this opens the door of the prison of enslaving habit. One needs then only a firm decision to leave that place forever, and the grace of God will accomplish the rest.
There are those who claim that homosexuality may be congenital. So what? Even if this were true, what difference does it make? I can be born without a limb or without eyes, does that make it any less a dysfunction? Or does that mean, for example, that we should indulge a blind man's fantasy that he can drive a car just so as to avoid 'discriminating' against him? Even if we feel great compassion for the blind man does that seem to you sound policy? Or do we need to consider the welfare of the society as a whole? What do you think? Actually it is much less insane to allow a blind man to drive than it is to allow homosexualists to 'marry' (let alone raise children, God help them!). The latter is much more destructive to society than the former. And the traitors to the human race who, from the shadows, are directing their armies of political stooges and social engineers to promote it continually, know this only too well......
But, dear readers, the fact remains that we all have our cross to bear in this life, our difficulties to overcome. That is the business of living. There is no avoiding it. In any case, it matters not whether one is a bachelor or a married man, celibacy is inevitable, sooner or later, for the intelligent, psychologically sound and sexually continent man. No congenital dysfunction, real or imagined, need impede us. Ultimately the goal is the same in this world for all, and ultimately we all need the grace of God to help us accomplish it, never more so than in these times!
This is not a matter for mere word play. To bring desire into complete subjugation is true freedom. It is the very essence of psychological self sufficiency and independence. And it takes actual experience of what this feels like to know there is nothing higher or better than this, not even sex. In this way we remain men, psychologically, where it counts. Our intelligence remains whole and profound and virile. And essentially humble in that one is aware of the limitations of mind and thought. That is reality. For God's sake don't believe the movies and the TV and the mass media! They can make anything seem real and alluring and psychologically viable in their world of make-believe, but real Life is something else entirely. We deny the fact of it only at our own expense.
You may also have noted the increasingly matriarchal nature of our society, another sure sign of a society in decline. But actually a matriarchal society is simply one in which evil men rule over men through unscrupulous and/or misguided women – there is never any question of feminine rule. It is a contradiction in terms.
A woman cannot truly respect and therefore love a man who is sexually incontinent and thus essentially submissive and dependent in nature. She may have an affection for him akin to what she might feel for a dog, but it will never be anything finer than that. Nor will she be deceived (for long) by mere bravado or violence or phoney power posing for masculinity and virility. Sooner or later she will despise him. Similarly a man will never be satisfied with an unchaste woman. Once the sexual allure has faded, she will be repugnant and a burden to him. Who can be satisfied with such arrangements, man or woman? And where does that leave the children? And while man and woman are busy blaming the other for their dissatisfaction and frustration does it occur to either that it is the quality of their own minds and beings that determines the quality of their relationships? And importantly, with whom they choose to be intimate in the first place. We cannot expect to find our way in the dark, can we? Yet the narrow door to the fullness of love and life remains open to all.
Talk to men these days and so many seem to be convinced they are no higher than the animals. This is actually their conditioning, they are merely parroting back what has been instilled into them and countless others like them by the corrupt and psychopathic mass media pop culture and the coward pseudo-scientific establishment, but they will vehemently defend that position and think it noble and uniquely their own. And of course the real tragedy is that they are right. They are no better than animals. Having cut themselves off from anything higher they are doomed to never know anything better.
Interestingly, though these men declare themselves equal with animals they almost invariably do not see any inconsistency in eating them. Apparently their notions of equality extend only to those carnivores and omnivores they find gastronomically unpalatable. (I think if I were an animal I would prefer inferiority to a man too compassionate to eat me than “equality” with one that would.) Clearly it is the law of the jungle and not inter-species equality with which these men actually identify, and it is thus the law of the jungle that determines the tiny and limited experience they mistake for the sum total of Reality. And the sex deception has played a significant role in the overall degradation of our men-folk in this way, and so too our community, our family unity and our way of life.
Now consider this for a moment. Isn't it disgusting? To take a man's natural susceptibilities and pervert them deliberately just so you can control him and use him and spit out the mess that he amounts to when he is is no longer of any use to you, is disgusting.
Consider also the young women who serve the ends of the people in the business of exploiting, manipulating and perverting our sexuality so as to extract from us our freedom. That freedom is our birthright. And these people are the basest of thieves. The women that serve them may look very attractive and alluring and may affect us in very pressing ways, but be sure of this: though they may be, to varying extents, as much victims of misdirection and deception or even intimidation, as the men they are used to target, the ones who do their job most effectively know full well the true nature of what they do for cash. They are not innocent; they are ruthless, unscrupulous, selfish and vain. And obscenely well paid for their treachery. They know that what they are essentially doing is deceiving you. Confusing you. Taking your natural love and appreciation for their physical allure and using that to exploit you and degrade you. And it's all done with a smile on their face and skilful make-up and the latest fashion, or a come hither look, a catchy tune, a dance step and a false lyric. Or with an expression we naturally associate with intimacy, tenderness and trust, yet what could be further from the truth?
Do you see the deception now gentlemen? The subtlety of it?
“Am I evil?”, asks the poster on the busy city street.
“Well yes, you are evil”, we answer. “You are allowing yourself to be used for evil purposes, either out of ignorance or recklessness or just sheer greed and wickedness, and all these things are evils.”
And while young women vulgar and vain, unscrupulous and ruthless, irresponsible, misguided and essentially stupid, take home their bulging bags of silver, we all pay the price in the quality of the society and environment we must share and live in together. Think about that.
But we must be careful to make the distinction that effectively deprives the sex deception of its power to deceive.
Sex (a natural function of the human body), per se, and free of any base lewdness or impropriety that may lead to incontinence, is neither disgusting nor evil. It has its time and place in our lives and is our own private affair. Indeed it may form part of an appropriately non-compulsive and non-degrading conjugal affection, and is thus the basis of human reproduction and new life, which is after all, sacred. But for goodness' sake, choose very carefully and wisely who you make the mother of your children, and conduct yourself with sobriety and intelligence so as to avoid mistakes, lest the very fruit of your loins, the flesh of your own flesh, your children no less, become yet another means to manipulate and control and enslave you.
And let us be clear about this: the mass exploitation and manipulation of sex and sexuality, just so some creep at the top of the heap can keep us all “in our place” and subject to his beck and call is hideous. It is both evil and oppressive, and very much so.
*Note: the road trip referred to above took place in 2014.